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I have had this problem most of my adult life, what are the main causes of retarded ejaculation, and what can i do about it?.....Read the Answer
 
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I am 52 yrs old and 4yrs ago had a vaginal hysterectomy (Laser). Ever since then I have not been able to have intercourse, it is to painful for any penetration. My doctor and partner have said I am not dry. I also frequently have itching and slight burning and have been treated for an abnormal amount of infections. The word from the doctor is there is nothing they can do, I have been to a few. The thought is that it must be psychological is there any other explanation you can think of? Desperate.....Read the Answer
 
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I am a 29 year old female. I have been married for 6 years and 9 months, and in the past year and a half or so my sex drive has almost completely vanished. My husband and I used to have sex 2-3 times per week until about a year and a half ago then it diminished to once a month. Now it has been two and a half months since our last sexual encounter. I have never failed to reach orgasm with my husband and I can still masturbate (though rarely now) to orgasm. But for some reason I simply do not relish the idea of sex with another human being. My husband is very attractive, and very sweet and kind. We cuddle and kiss (no tongues) all the time, but I don't want it to go any further than that. I also don't want sex with anyone else either. I've gotten to the point where I can walk by a man who is absolutely gorgeous and not feel anything.

It might be useful for you to know that I have been taking Depo Provera for about 4 or 5 years now for birth control. I have heard that that can contribute to low desire, but my problem only started 18 months ago. I also took Paxil for two months, which I have also heard can contribute to such a problem, but I have been off of that for two months now. The next logical question would be to ask what happened 18 months ago, yes? Well, I've thought about it and the answer is: nothing unusual. I don't have a stressful job, I get plenty of sleep, o.k. my diet is horrible (typical American fare), but it always was, I don't have any children to exhaust me or stress me out, and I couldn't ask for a better husband. So what's wrong with me? I'm stumped. And I want my sex drive back. I remember how much fun it was and I miss it. What do I do?.....Read the Answer
 
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Oral sex (mutual) is very important to me, but soon after we were married my wife unilaterally decided (without even talking with me about it)that we would no longer engage in oral sex on the grounds that it supposedly is unhealthful. I am convinced that she is not correct, scientifically. I feel like the butt of the old joke: "How do you get a woman to stop enjoying oral sex? Marry her." She knew before we were married what I like, and I THOUGHT I knew what she liked, so I think she should be willing to meet half way at least. But she won't budge an inch. Over the years, my resentment over this has built up substantially, and she still will not even discuss it no matter how tactful or clever I am in trying to bring up the subject in a non-threatening manner. It seems to be no big deal to her, as a matter of sexual satisfaction, because she often becomes completely satisfied before I orgasm. She also often claims to be too sore to continue after she orgasms, at which point the rest is left to me, alone -- which, of course, makes it all the more frustrating to me that we do not avail ourselves of the oral sex alternative that not only would prevent soreness, but likely would provide us with more mutual satisfaction.....Read the Answer
 
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My best friend was told she has HVP, an STD which can lead to cancer (uterine??) What is it and what can you tell us about it?? Thank you.....Read the Answer
 
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I am going in for a hysterectomy in 4 weeks for adenomyosis. Will my husband be able to tell during sex ? Will I be bigger or will it not change much in the sense of feeling for him? I fear that I will be too big for my husband to injoy having sex with me. I am only 23 years old. He is ten years older than me and I know he will not say anything to me for fear he will upset me. We have had all the children we want. Is there a way to help both of us with the problems we will face in a few weeks?.....Read the Answer
 
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I'm a 32 old male, healthy and athletic with probably above normal sexual desire. But my most intensive orgasm comes not from having sex with an attractive partner, but from getting into certain positions myself. I am very flexible and when I slide my legs into a straddle split position, when my crotch touches the floor, I can ejaculate without physically touching my penis. Although I have had various sexual partners, that's by far the best sex I can ever have. Since my best sex isn't with a female, I take it as abnormal. I'm just wondering if there are other people like me out there. Should I do something to correct this anomaly? Or should I just keep enjoying myself?.....Read the Answer
 
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This probably isn't a very common question, it's just that most of the "ask an expert" websites seem like they're not really experts, this website looks different. I recently purchased some flavored lubricant at a novelty store. Before using it, I had two questions. 1) Will using it weaken the condom? It is a water-based lubricant, but will its use lower the protection of pregnancy? 2) Because it is flavored and contains sugar, will it be harmful to my girlfriend? Will the sugar lead to infections? Thank you for your help and advice.....Read the Answer
 
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I am 35 and have been dating a man who 10 years older, we recently had sex for the first time, and he did not ejaculate. He used a condom, but it came off during intercourse and unfortunately remained inside of me for a day or so. We stopped intercourse as soon as we realized he was no longer wearing the condom. After looking at my cycle, I was in the middle, around the time I should be ovulating. Upon inspection of the condom when found, it was intact and not "inside-out", hopefully trapping any pre-ejaculate fluid which may contain sperm. I took the emergency morning after pill about 24 hours later just to be on the safe side. I have a couple of questions: How likely is it that I could be pregnant and how soon can a doctor do a test? How common is it for a somewhat older man to have difficulty ejaculating?.....Read the Answer
 
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I am involved intimately, but not to the point of intercourse w/ a 62-year-old man (I'm 62 also) He has never been married, but has had many sexual affairs. He is healthy; a self-employed small businessman whose job is stressful & physically taxing as well. We smooch, pet & I stimulate him (quite easily) to a huge erection -- but he doesn't ejaculate. Is ejaculation needed for his complete satisfaction? What would be reasons for it not to occur? What should I/how should I "handle" this situation?.....Read the Answer
 
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When I meet new people, there is the presumption that "people in wheelchairs don't do sex." How do I communicate my interests without getting busted for harassment?.....Read the Answer
 
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Sex has become close to non-existent due to my wife's chronic pain associated with fibromyalgia. What suggestions do you have for us.....Read the Answer
 
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My fiance is a paraplegic. He has a c-7 spinal cord injury. We both want children, but we aren't sure if he can have children. I wanted to know if there is anyway to find out if he is able to conceive.....Read the Answer
 
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I am a 52-year-old woman with multiple sclerosis. Before the onset of MS five years ago, my husband and I made love about once a week and I always had an orgasm. But the more disabled I get the less I want to have sex with my husband. I want to, I dream about it, but I can't do it. I've rejected him for four years now and I am afraid I am going to lose him. How can I go about rekindling my desire for sex?.....Read the Answer
 
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My husband and I are newly married and he was recently sent to the Middle East with a deployment by the Armed Forces. How can we keep the home-fires burning sexually while he's away.....Read the Answer
 
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I got married three years ago and since the birth of my first child I have added 50 lbs to my 125-pound frame. It has affected my sex life by my not feeling sexy and although my husband won't admit it, I don't think he's as attracted to me anymore. In the last two months we've only had sex once. I don't know what to do. I want to lose the weight (I've started an exercise and diet program) but it could take months and I don't want the lack of sex my husband and I are experiencing to affect our relationship in the meantime. What can I do to feel sexier and have more sex?.....Read the Answer
 
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I met this guy online in October and in about a week we decided to see each other in person. When I saw him in person I was shocked, he did not look what I expected him to look like. He sent me some pictures, before I met him in person; the first picture he sent was a picture of him when he was younger. I kind of liked that one but the other two we did not like. He then told me he looks much better in person so I went to see him.

When I first saw him in person I decided I did not want to see him again because he wasn't my type, yet I did not stop. I am pushing myself so hard, because I am 36 years old and want to have a baby. I just had surgery to remove a fibroid from my uterus and that even makes it harder for me. The thing is Doctor, I love this guy when I talk to him over the phone, we talk almost three hours every other day, but when I see him in person, it's always a problem. I get overcome with the fact that he is not handsome. I've read other people's comments online and I know I should just convince myself that looks are not as important as personality.

I need advice -- I don't know what to think or do anymore. We have not kissed or done anything yet and it has been three months since I have known him. I miss him when he does not call, and I love to talk with him over the phone; we have a lot in common but when it comes to in person -- oh boy, I don't want anything to do with him. What should I do?.....Read the Answer
 
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I'm a healthy, well-adjusted 40-year-old woman who loves sex. I have no interest in getting married or of even getting in a long-term relationship. I like that I can have sex when and with whom I want.

The problem is that most of my friends and family don't understand this. They're afraid that I'm becoming an "old maid" by engaging in my "slutty" ways. They don't understand how I can seduce men and just have sex without being emotionally tied to the person. I'd be happy to welcome a regular sexual relationship, but I like that I have the option to fuck someone else. Until recently I was pretty secure in how I felt, but now I'm questioning if maybe there is something wrong with me. Why can't I be like everyone else?.....Read the Answer
 
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I want to use lube but my husband doesn't believe in it. Getting wet never used to be a problem but now in my early forties I don't seem to lubricate as much. I've tried to bring it up but my husband thinks I should be able to get wet on my own. I want to have sex but it's so painful now. Help!.....Read the Answer
 
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My wife and I have been involved in the "swinger" scene for some time now. It's been a wonderful way to express our sexuality as a couple over the years. However, I've sensed she has had more than a fleeting attraction to one of the other husbands we've been playing with in the last month. She talks about him all the time and when we show up to parties she seems to focus on him. I'm somewhat surprised because we've always been so open with one another but I don't know how to even bring this up. How can I address this with her without her feeling like I don't trust her? I don't want us to have to change our lifestyle.....Read the Answer
 
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I've been with my boyfriend a couple of years and he just told me that his first sexual experiences were with other boys when he was young teenager. What I find so disturbing is that it wasn't just like they masturbated each other but actually gave each other oral sex. Apparently, this lasted several months and he has said that he hasn't been with a guy since then - nor does he say he wants to. But he seems way too unapologetic for me. Is my boyfriend really gay or am I just overreacting?.....Read the Answer
 
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hi im a 31 year old male who has been stupid and had unprotected sex since i have had afew red spots on my penis also the skin seems to b rubbing offu know when u got a spot and touch it it stings a little well this is how mine is also on one side of my penis is swelled a little can u please let me know wot u think it is?.....Read the Answer
 
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Do partners, where one partner has completely lost their sex drive, ever agree on some sort of outsourcing for the driven partner? My girlfriend and i have been together for 6 years and have a wonderful relationship in all aspects except one, that is tearing me apart. For the first 18 months we both had very high sex drives whereby we would have sex between 1 and 3 times per day. At this point my girlfriend developed a severe case of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (after some undetermined virus) and her sex drive and desire deteriorated to absolute zero after six months and has never returned (incidentally, neither have her periods). We are still battling her chronic fatigue and four years on her drive is still zero. The problem is that i am going completely insane as my drive has remained the same and it appears that masterbation just is not doing the trick any more. Unfortunately our social upbringing of fidelity does not consider unusual situations such as this. Sometimes unusual situations need unusual solutions. I feel that this has been a ridiculous question to ask but she really has no desire at all any more and i just want to know if people have managed to keep their relationships alive by changing the rules of this one aspect. Many people won't understand this thinking, but i live in a country where prostitution is legal and i have seriously considered using that as an outlet with her consent. Have you ever heard of this working?? Any other suggestions would of course be most welcome!.....Read the Answer
 
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My boyfriend and I have been sexual active for about 4 months, at first the sex was great and it didn't hurt, but after awhile for some reason if I didn't position myself right when he penetrated me it felt like his penis was rubbing up against some kind of bone and it hurts and I feel uncomfortable! Please help me!.....Read the Answer
 
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I can not reach an orgasm due to a big fight with my husband about a month ago never happened to me in the last 20 years do I need therapy?.....Read the Answer
 
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I was raped and i found out that i have herpes and i need to know if i can have normal sex with my boyfriend without infecting him and are there any limitations on things we can do to each other sexually? Is there some kind of vaccine he can get so that he doesnt contract this virus?.....Read the Answer
 
  
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