Hi Reno. I''m sorry your marriage is getting off to a bad start. However, as much as we like to "romanticize" sex, it is also a "skill" that can be learned, changed and perfected with time.
Sexual incompatbility often is a symptom of other problems in the marriage. Are you in love with your husband? Do you feel he is your best friend? Can you talk to each other about anything? If you really love your husband and want to work things out, then it isn''t too late to have a healthy, satisfying sex life.
I know it''s hard to bring this up. Many men become completely deflated if they find out they aren''t satisfying their partner. However, sexual satisfaction is important to the overall health of the marriage. The easiest way to make this better is to suggest marriage counseling. Then you have a third person, the counselor, who can help you address these issues. Many married couples have sexual issues; you aren''t alone there.
As you''ve learned, an unsatisfactory sex life can cause loads of resentment and bad feelings about your spouse overall. If your husband really loves you, he will WANT to learn how to satisfy you sexually.
If you feel you just didn''t date long enough and that you have made a mistake, then that''s another issue. Approach your husband with a loving attitude and tell him that you want to improve your marriage overall. If he really loves you, he''ll be an eager learner and you can get your relationship back on track. Individual counseling could also help YOU process your feelings and figure out how your want to proceed. I wish you the best. Rhonda